Francis J. Lanzone, M.D., of Edgartown and Manhasset, N.Y., died peacefully but unexpectedly on July 12, 2013, at the age of 62. Frank was the cherished and adored father of Alyson Lanzone Wiesner (Elisha) and Ashley-Rose Killough (Matthew), beloved husband of Zora Lanzone, devoted son of the late Joseph A., and Wanda Lanzone, caring former husband of Suzanne Lanzone, and loving brother of John A., M.D. (Kathleen), Theresa C., M.D. (Raymond), Joan A., D.D.S. (Duane), Wanda J., D.M.D. (Stephen) and Joseph A., M.D. (Kerry).
Frank, affectionately known to many as “The Doc,” was a longtime, well-respected orthopedic surgeon in Mineola and Garden City, N.Y., and he enjoyed visiting the family house on the Vineyard to spend time with his daughters where they reside.
Frank made it a habit to pilot his Cessna 210 to the Island almost every weekend to see Alyson (Aly) and Ashley-Rose (Rosey) when they were growing up on the Vineyard. If the weather was too foreboding, he would make the long drive from N.Y. to Woods Hole because nothing would stop him from visiting. Frank would spend the weekend teaching the girls how to drive, cook, fish, hit softballs, while also teaching them how to listen, love, and care. Lunch at the Newes Pub for French onion soup was always part of the routine and he loved to soak up the sun and brave the rip tide at South Beach. Frank remained close to Aly and Ashley-Rose at all times to be there at any and all junctures in their lives including horse shows, holidays, graduations, and never missed out on anything that was important to his daughters and to his family that he cherished all his days. They are very sad at his parting, but it is such good fortune that he was able to give both daughters away in their marriages, Aly to Elisha Wiesner of Chilmark and Ashley-Rose to Matthew Killough of North Carolina. Frank proudly walked them down the aisles and beamed with pride, for he loved his two daughters with all his heart. He cared for his sons-in-law as if they were his own. He was thrilled to know that he would soon be a grandfather as Ashley-Rose and Matthew are expecting in September. Suzanne and Frank remained close friends unto the end and together they defined so elegantly the idea of co-parenting, which they did with such grace.
When Frank graced any room with his presence, it was grand. He had a larger-than-life personality and an incredible humanness about him. He was an outstanding and generous caretaker — always putting others always before himself. Frank had a big smile, a great hug, and charm that was irresistible. Frank did so much in his short life, really living each day to the fullest, and he did everything well (surgeon, medical director at Day-Op Center, working for the Nassau County Police Department, pilot, father, sibling, friend, husband, driving race cars for fun, etc.).
Frank had an extraordinary work ethic, which he instilled in his daughters, but he also knew how to enjoy life. This world has lost a remarkable protector, caregiver, confidant, comedian, surgeon, and friend. Frank was so proud of his family and they were so proud of him. He will be forever in their hearts.
He was laid to rest beside his parents at Holy Rood Cemetery in Westbury, N.Y. In lieu of flowers donations may be made to: Wounded Warrior Project.