Facebook redefines staying in touch; can be full-time

By Niki Patton
Published: March 19, 2009

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Days after the Massachusetts Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals announced plans to close Martha's Vineyard's only animal shelter, Heather Jardin created a "Save The Martha's Vineyard MSPCA" page on Facebook. There was an immediate reaction. As of early this week, Ms. Jardin reports, more than 2,000 members had signed on as friends of the site.

Five years after its start, Facebook, a social networking website initially designed for college students, has an estimated 175 million users of all ages worldwide, and that number is growing, according to industry watchers.

As more and more adults take to web-based social life, the odds increase daily that adult users will find someone they know on Facebook - a former girlfriend, a high school chum, or a new or old office colleague.

Looking for an easy way to stay up to date on his classmates' lives, Harvard student Mark Zuckerburg created Facebook in 2004. It became a global phenomenon after sweeping across college and high school campuses nationwide.

Beginning Facebook

Go to facebook.com and enter your real name, email address, and a password. You'll be asked for your high school, college, and where you live and work. Facebook will match this to their database to see if anyone you might know is already a member and show you a list. You can click through to see if you'd like to "friend" anyone to get you started.

Next, upload a photo to replace the faceless headshot on the left hand side of the home page. (If you leave the faceless headshot, users may think you're not really interested in participating in the social network and not be as responsive.) Next, enter something in the status box that prompts, "What are you doing right now?" You can enter a short phrase describing just about anything you like - from your current actions and feelings to your last meal or view of life and politics.

Once you post a status, that line will appear on the pages of anyone you have chosen to friend - alerting them to the fact that you are now active on Facebook. Beyond that, the possibilities are several - as one sage user said, "Just keep clicking!" to see options.

When you're stumped - find a teenager.

Facebook is popular among students at Martha's Vineyard Regional High School, where hundreds of students collect Facebook friends on their pages (a personal mini-website within the Facebook structure).

"If you don't have a Facebook page when you get here, people will say, 'Why don't you get one?' so most kids do," says Katie Mayhew of West Tisbury, a regional high school junior.

Three years after logging on, Ms. Mayhew has 409 Facebook friends at last count. If you think no one could really have 409 friends, welcome to the new definition of friend - someone who is allowed access to a Facebook member's page, where he or she can view a member's ongoing posts of comments, notes, photos, videos and website links, and who provides reciprocal page access. In the Facebook lexicon, "friend" is also a verb.

"It's my network," says Ms. Mayhew, "and it lets me know what's going on with people I might not know that well but want to keep up with."

Facebook also allows users to create pages for upcoming events, and so people's pages become an ever-changing online billboard for student activities.

On the Vineyard, where a large portion of the population comes and goes seasonally, Facebook is a convenient way to reach out to the other, off-Island, world and stay in touch with summer friends' lives year-round.

Thaw Malin, an Island artist, has been migrating to Texas for the winter since 2005. "Because I'm down here in Texas, I love Facebook," says Mr. Malin. "I can get glimpses and tastes of what my friends on the Vineyard are doing. It's opened up another level of communication that I couldn't have unless I was calling people. Some of the people who have friended me or I've friended, I probably never would call, but we're still in a relationship."

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