West Tisbury: Friendsgiving


I was so disappointed to wake up Friday morning to find the snow washed away except for a few wisps caught in the grass and brush along the edge of our woods. It was so pretty when we took Nan out the night before, a fine coating of white. My brothers in Connecticut had several inches overnight, while we awoke to nothing but rain. I hope the weather will be clear for everyone traveling to and from the island for Thanksgiving.

Ashley Peters wrote an interesting article in the Atlantic about a new pre-Thanksgiving holiday called Friendsgiving, designed by millenials who want to celebrate with friends before heading home to their families, or those who don’t have family to go to. The trend began in 2004, and has increased in popularity since; many consider it a holiday in its own right. Friendsgiving dinners are potlucks, and usually held on the weekend before Thanksgiving, “a holiday of hospitality, generosity, and inclusion,” according to the article.

Because of the holiday, it will be a short week at the library. It will be closed Thursday and Friday. Here is a list of events:

Saturday, Nov. 24, 2:30 pm, the Lego Club for all ages will meet.

Sunday, Nov. 25, 3:30 pm, the Community Poetry Reading will be hosted by West Tisbury poet laureate Spencer Thurlow.

Monday, Nov. 26, 11:30 am, Kanta Lipsky will lead her Balance Workshop. At 6 pm, an intimate night of music with singer-songwriter Sean McMahon.

Tuesday, Nov. 27, 4:30 pm, financial advisor Eric Packer will give a history and current overview of value-based investing.

The Federated Church in Edgartown will welcome volunteers to make wreaths to be sold at their Festival of Wreaths on Thursday, Nov. 29, from 4 to 6 pm. Wreathmaking will take place in the Parish House on Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday, Nov. 26 to 28, from 9 am to 4 pm. Proceeds from the sale will benefit the preservation and maintenance of the 1832 Mayhew Parsonage. Call 508-627-4421 for information.

Mike and I and most of the Island were at Lambert’s Cove Cemetery Saturday afternoon attending the graveside service for Eddie Cottle Sr., who died last week. The Rev. Vicki Hanjian officiated as we all stood on a sunny bank flanking the gravesite. We had parked at the lumberyard, and as we walked up the road, Mike was reminiscing about how supportive and helpful Mr. Cottle and Betty Keniston, who ran the office, were when he was starting out as a carpenter here in the early 1980s. “He was a good businessman and ran a good yard,” my husband said.

So many of the men standing alongside us, now grizzled and middle-aged, were young carpenters then, too, and all had stories of Mr. Cottle’s generosity in their early years. With gratitude for his memory, I send my condolences to his wife, Betty, and children Ed Jr., Alan, Janet, Jill, and Amy.

Congratulations to Scarlet Johnson, as her Yoga Barn marks its 10th anniversary. I’m passing along the following message she sent with her announcement. It seems fitting as we prepare for the Thanksgiving holiday: “May all beings everywhere be happy and free. May all beings know peace. May all beings know the light inside so that they may come to recognize it in everyone.”

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone.